Kris Vallotton • May 7, 2021

A Mom's Love Does Not Return Void: a Guest Post by Kathy Vallotton

THE REAL WORLD CHANGERS

Mothers have a unique call and gifting! I have been surrounded by mothers that have supported me my whole life. My own mother lost her husband and the love of her life at 20 years old. Despite her circumstances, she paved a life full of kindness and perseverance. My mom was my greatest support and most faithful friend. I’d propose mothers are the life-saving and world-changing agents we all have experienced; if we all loved and served like them the world would be a better place.


In honor of Mother’s Day, I asked my wife and the incredible mother of our four children, Kathy Vallotton, to share a story from her new book  The Good, the God, and the Ugly . I wanted her to share with you how she has processed not only the joys and triumphs of motherhood, but also the pain and  disappointment . I hope you feel encouraged, loved, and celebrated today. 


A Note From Kathy: 

I became a mother at 18 years old; it was my lifelong dream — yet, I felt far from qualified. Kris and I brought our first baby girl home from the hospital and were in awe and wonder at what our life as parents would entail. After raising four children and 10 grandchildren, I can tell you now it is my greatest joy and has been my deepest pain. It can feel like you are the anchor to a ship that has sailed into a never-ending storm. It is not always easy; I know in my parenting days it has often felt like with every triumph there is a challenge and with every frustration there is new hope. 


However, with over 45 years of  parenting  under our belts now, I want to encourage all the moms out there. Whether, you are a biological mother, spiritual mother, stepmother, or godmother you are loved and cherished. The love you pour out each day to the children you have been given does not return void. 


I learned early on; the world is in need of mothers — the call of a mom goes beyond serving and nurturing our own children. One of the most powerful lessons I learned as a mom and we learned as a family was that miracles are commonly discovered in “the land of risk,” and there are few things riskier than inviting strangers into your home to live with you. In the first 18 years of our marriage, our guests often outnumbered our own children. This dynamic thrust us into the adventure of a lifetime, where there was never a dull moment at the Vallotton home. 


So much of our passion to touch the homeless, help the broken, and free the captives was inspired by a young, radical Jesus freak named  Tracy Evans . Tracy really became part of our family. One day she came home from work and began telling me about a girl she had met whom I will refer to as “Sharon” (not her real name). Tracy was working as a nurse at the local hospital, where she met Sharon. Tracy shared with me that Sharon had ended up in the hospital because she was all cut up from running into some sharp pieces of trash in the dark. (There was a lot more to that story, none of it good.) She had no family to speak of, and on top of all that, it was her birthday. 

   

Sharon’s situation touched me deeply. I felt sorry for her, and compassion gushed out of me like an untamed river. But I could feel there was more to the story. Tracy shared with me “she’s been involved in satanism, and she’s really confused. What she needs is a secure, loving family to live with for a while.” My mama’s heart was moved just thinking of how a loving family could impact Sharon’s life. After a long discussion, Kris and I came to the decision she could stay with us for one week at most. 


WHEN YOU DON’T SEE THE FRUIT OF IT

When Sharon arrived at our house it soon became apparent that she was streetwise but had very little in the way of common sense or family values...


In fact, I don’t think those were even in her vocabulary. I concluded that I was going to have to put on my big-girl pants because this lady needed me to show her some good, strong, motherly love. 


Remember, how we said she could only stay for a week at most? Well, days turned into weeks, and weeks turned into months as Sharon slowly integrated into our family. She was learning about the love of God and was experiencing miracles right in front of her eyes. Sharon lived with us for months, and all of us were changed by the transforming power of God’s love evident in her life. She became a different person during her time in our home, but sadly, a while later she turned back to her old life and got lost in darkness.


This truly left us devastated. I couldn’t believe that someone who had experienced the depth of the Father’s love like she had in the last few months could retreat to their old ways of darkness so quickly. I have learned that one of the side effects of a life of miracles and faith is disappointment. Disappointment not so much because the miracle you are believing for does not take place (although that certainly happens at times), but more often because the people who experience a bona fide act of God don’t always change. 


Yet amid the disappointment that comes from taking a risk, is the joy that comes from loving people right where they are. Jesus was our greatest example of God’s love being poured out without expecting anything in return. Some of us plant, some water and others are there for the harvest. Every time we reach out toward someone in love, we are making a difference in his or her life, whether we see the fruit of it or not. 

A MOTHER’S DAY ENCOURAGEMENT

I want to encourage all you mamas out there to remember that every act of love and service sown into your kids is healing hearts, laying foundations, and building a legacy we may not live to see. There is incredible purpose in every meal you make and bedtime story you read; lives are being changed, and remember the Lord is their Father watching after their every move. He is our greatest mom support; with Him, we can conquer giants and slay dragons. 


Today my prayer is that the mamas out there feel the peace of the Father and joy of the Lord as you love and nurture your children. I pray you feel the subtle nudge from our heavenly Father as He whispers to you “good job.”


Blessings to all of you this Mother’s Day. I would love to hear in the comments below how a mother has impacted and shaped your life. 

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Character and Gifting: Favor with God and Favor with Man

By Kris Vallotton • March 5, 2025
Have you ever felt called to a spiritual role but struggled to find your place in it? Perhaps you've experienced a divine moment where God revealed a prophetic gift in your life, yet you found yourself wondering why others don't seem to recognize or acknowledge it. This tension between divine calling and human recognition can be one of the most challenging aspects of walking in prophetic ministry. I've spoken with countless individuals who believe God has called them to be prophets, yet they feel frustrated when church leadership doesn't immediately recognize their office. They often share powerful testimonies of divine encounters or prophetic words that confirmed their calling. But here's the beautiful truth I've discovered: authentic spiritual authority requires both divine appointment and human recognition. Scripture shows us that even Jesus "increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men" (Luke 2:52). This powerful verse reveals an important principle – spiritual authority flourishes at the intersection of Heaven's approval and earthly recognition. The Bible offers us profound wisdom about this journey of walking out our prophetic calling. Let's explore three essential principles that can help you navigate this path with grace and wisdom. 1. Understand the Process Between Anointing and Appointment King David's story provides one of the most powerful examples of the gap between divine calling and public recognition. When Samuel anointed David as king, the Spirit of the Lord came upon him powerfully – yet David didn't actually become king for fourteen years! During that time, he served faithfully, developed his character, and waited for God's timing. The journey between your prophetic calling and your public commissioning is not an accident – it's divine design. This season of preparation builds the character, wisdom, and spiritual maturity needed to carry the weight of prophetic authority. Just as David was anointed three times – once by God through Samuel and twice by the people – your prophetic gift may require multiple confirmations. Remember that if you have favor with God but not yet with leadership, pushing for recognition prematurely can lead to painful experiences. As Proverbs 18:16 reminds us, " A man's gift makes room for him, and brings him before great men. " Allow your gift to create the space for your ministry rather than trying to force open doors that aren't ready to receive you. 2. Avoid Self-Promotion and Political Maneuvering It’s important to realize that even though your gift is what gets you into the room, your character is the thing that keeps you there. There's a stark warning in Scripture about gaining influence through manipulation rather than divine timing. Absalom, David's son, shows us the danger of winning people's hearts through flattery, false promises, and undermining leadership. He created a following by positioning himself as more accessible and understanding than the established authority. In today's social media age, the temptation toward self-promotion has never been stronger. We can easily build platforms that elevate our image above our character. But true prophetic authority doesn't come through marketing yourself as an expert – it comes through humble service, consistent character, and divine timing. James 4:6 reminds us that " God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble. " When we push for recognition prematurely or through manipulation, we may gain a position but miss the protection that comes with proper promotion. Like Joseph, who shared his prophetic dreams prematurely with his brothers, our lack of wisdom can create a much more difficult path to our destiny than God intended. 3. Embrace the Preparation Process The weight of the prophetic office is both invisible and substantial. I've witnessed many genuinely called individuals crumble under the pressure of premature promotion. The apostle Paul wisely instructed that leaders " should first be tested and then let them serve " (1 Timothy 3:10), and warned against laying hands on anyone hastily (1 Timothy 5:22). True preparation for prophetic ministry involves more than just having accurate prophetic words. It requires developing spiritual maturity, biblical understanding, relational wisdom, and emotional health. If you sense a prophetic calling on your life, embrace the preparation process with patience and humility. Serve faithfully where you are. Allow trusted leaders to speak into your life and development. Study the Scriptures diligently. And remember that the process between the promise and the palace is not just necessary – it's a gift that prepares you to succeed when your time comes. My prayer for you is that you would find peace in God's timing for your prophetic journey. May you grow in both favor with God and with people, allowing the Lord to develop in you the character needed to carry His voice with integrity. Let me be clear- the path to your prophetic purpose isn't just about reaching a destination – it's about becoming the person who can faithfully steward the authority that comes with it.

4 Lessons After 50 Years of Marriage

By Kris Vallotton • February 12, 2025
Kathy and I are celebrating our 50th anniversary this year, and we’ve been together for 54. We’ve experienced highs and lows together and built a life I never imagined possible! Over the past 50+ years, we’ve learned a few things that I want to share with you to help your marriage thrive!  Know when to sacrifice pleasure for the pursuit of joy. Kathy and I have learned when to sacrifice pleasure for the pursuit of joy; this is the discipline of laying down your life for another. A practical example of this is when people find out we have horses. They say, “Oh wow, Kris, you have horses!” My response to them goes something like this, “No, I don’t have horses. Kathy has horses. I only pay for the horses.” Their next question for me usually is, “Don’t you like horses?” To which I respond, “No, I don’t like horses, but I like Kathy.” You see, I get a lot of joy out of doing what Kathy wants to do. I am willing to sacrifice my own pleasure to pursue what develops joy in our marriage. It’s not one-sided, Kathy does the same for me. 2. Forgiveness restores the standard. If you’ve been in a relationship for any length of time, then you know the honeymoon phase doesn't last forever. The person that you love and cherish at the deepest level is the same person that will stretch, challenge, and offend you. I learned this lesson years ago when my kids were teenagers. I became angry with Kathy in front of them and treated her disrespectfully. An hour later, I apologized, and she forgave me. Colossians 3:13 tells us that “Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive". The truth is, forgiveness restores the standard of holiness in us and through us. 3. It’s not bad if your spouse thinks differently than you. Men and women think differently, and this is metaphorically demonstrated in the way they were created. Please understand what I am trying to communicate here. I am not at all trying to dishonor either gender. I know that women and men are equally intelligent. When Kathy and I got married, I didn’t understand marriage or women at all. I was so ignorant that it wasn’t even funny. I just had no value for Kathy’s opinion, while we were making decisions, when she refused to produce the facts for her conclusions. She often prefaced her statements with phrases like, “I feel like...,” “It troubles me that...,” “I don’t feel good about that...,” and so on. But what I learned over time, as many of my great decisions began to turn into mistakes, was that her “It feels like” or “This troubles me” were often a lot more accurate than the so-called facts! As the years have rolled on, I have learned to invite the rest of me, and my other half, my wife, into all of my decisions. And she has learned the same thing. We were made to be together. We are one flesh, a mystery that continues to unfold with time. 4. Vision gives pain a purpose. It is my conviction that we are living in a generation perishing for lack of vision. This is evident in many different areas of life, but I also see it in marriages. Having a vision for your marriage will help you persevere through the harder seasons that you’ll face together. Many years ago I had a vision where I was standing next to this elderly gentleman and could see him perfectly, but the man could not see me. The older man was surrounded by children and grandchildren telling stories about the family's history, lineage, and favor with God. In the vision he said, “And all of this began with your great-great-grandmother and great-great-grandfather.” I looked up and above the mantle of the fireplace and there was a huge portrait of Kathy and me! The Lord spoke to me and said: “You are no longer to live for a ministry—you are to live to leave a legacy! Your children’s children’s children are depending on you leaving them a world in revival. From this day forward, you will live for a generation that you will never see. You are to have a one-hundred-year vision so that you can build from the future.” This vision of our future helped us in developing a strategy to apprehend God’s goals for our lives, and it was the fuel that kept us going in the harder seasons. Consequently, from that day on, we began to build from the future, as the Lord had said. Let me be clear: you don't have to have a literal vision like I did, but you should have a vision and a direction for the future! ​​Your marriage isn’t just about you, it’s about the generations that will follow. The truth is, the way you love, lead, and fight for your marriage today is building a legacy for your children and their children. So take time with your spouse, dream with God, and dream with each other. Get a vision for your family’s future! The breakthrough you experience now will impact the generations to come.

4 Spiritual Disciplines to Propel Your Growth in the New Year

By Kris Vallotton • January 1, 2025
As we step into 2025, people are often thinking about engaging in the time-honored yet unspoken custom of setting New Year’s Resolutions. Many people jump on the opportunity to develop new healthier habits and pursue positive change with the start of a brand new year. Most New Year's Resolutions revolve around diet and exercise, finances, relationships, and hobbies or personal interests. New Year's Resolutions help by giving people a vision for when they endure the challenges that come with change. Losing 100 pounds or being more diligent with saving money isn't always easy and vision gives pain a purpose! All of these areas are important to focus on, but oftentimes we neglect spiritual topics when forming our resolutions. As we focus on building our physical lives and pursuing health and wholeness with the New Year, it’s crucial not to overlook our spiritual growth and well-being. I’m going to share four spiritual disciplines you can grow in this New Year, along with practical tips to help you follow through. Some of these may appear simple, but when practiced consistently over a long period of time, they can lead to deep transformation! 1. Bible Reading This should come as no surprise, but it can be very difficult to find time on a busy day to sit down and read the Scriptures. Some people have a hard time sitting and being still to read while others are bombarded by the busyness of their lives. I want to encourage you to prioritize your time in the Word this year - I make sure to read at least one chapter each day. It might mean having to sacrifice something. Perhaps it’s waking up earlier to have an extra 30 minutes in your routine. Try leaving your Bible open on your kitchen counter the night before, so you see it in the morning. Maybe you can bring your Bible during your lunch break and have a meal with Jesus. You can even listen to the Bible on audio for your morning commute! My encouragement is to start small and build the habit. 2. Prayer Personal prayer can look different to everyone. Some people have no problem praying for over an hour a day, other people have a hard time finding a moment in an entire week! The goal here is to make sure that we are staying in communion with God. There may be sometimes where you only have two minutes to pray in-between meetings or running errands. There may be other times where you have to go into your room, lock your door and pray in secret for an extended period of time like the Bible says. Let me be clear: the goal is consistent communion with the Father. Try setting reminders or alarms on your phone to go off at certain parts of the day. It doesn't have to be long. These reminders can be specific like, “Pray for my family member” or “Pray for healing for this coworker.” You can write them down on pieces of paper and stick them to the walls in your house. 3. Community This may not feel like a discipline, but one of the most challenging things that a person's spiritual growth could face is solitude. When God created Adam he said that it was not good for man to be alone. We were created for community and Jesus was often found doing ministry and life around a group of people except for the times where he went alone to pray. Stepping out into community can be challenging. Maybe you struggle with fear of rejection, not fitting in, or you're scared of how people will respond when they really begin to know you. If you find yourself being isolated, reach out to some people. Text a friend that you know and trust and share that you want to spend more time around people. If you're part of a local church see what kind of small groups they have to offer. Community is a key for growth in 2025. Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” 4. Serving When Jesus was on earth he said in Matthew 20:28 that, “Just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many.” Serving was at the center of Jesus’ ministry. He met the physical needs of people by providing food miraculously as well as the spiritual needs of people by offering salvation to everyone who would believe. When we serve people we are like Christ. There may be people coming to your mind already who have a need. They could be in your church family, or a friend from school or work. It doesn’t have to be someone you know! Try paying for someone’s coffee in line and leaving them with some encouragement. There are so many ways that we can serve people and make them feel seen and loved. When they feel seen and loved, they are often very receptive to the Gospel. The power in these disciplines isn’t just doing them once, but in repeating them over a long period of time. As Zechariah 4:10 reminds us, we should not despise small beginnings, for the LORD rejoices to see the work begin. My prayer for you is that what would start as spiritual disciplines would grow into spiritual devotion. That you would find joy in these things and that they would draw you closer to the Father!
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