Kris Vallotton • April 10, 2020

How to Rein in a Rogue Tongue That Could Be Sabotaging Your Success

LOSERS, LOWLIFES, & SINNERS


Do you believe that in order to earnestly love God you must first hate yourself? In other words, do you think that mistreating yourself is somehow a spiritual act? Let me tell you, there are many baffled believers out there who are convinced that the only way to please God is to think of themselves as losers or lowly sinners. They have been deceived by a demonic scheme and have lost sight of Paul’s words in Ephesians 5:29: “ No one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church. ” With that in mind, I propose it’s time that we learn how to tenderly care for ourselves because Jesus wants us to live fully alive—spirit, soul, and body.

Bill Johnson rightly says, “We can’t afford to have a thought in our mind that isn’t in His!” Jesus put it this way: “ The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly ” (John 10:10). We have an enemy who is attempting to rob us of our spiritual inheritance through demonic doctrines that project their own condemnation on to us. It is very important that we do not get the thief’s thoughts mixed up with what the Lord thinks of us!

A ROGUE TONGUE


One of the worst things we can do when our mind is under an unholy spiritual siege is to speak. Let me be clear: I do not mean we should avoid asking for help or stay silent in some isolated corner; I am talking about verbalizing the demonic thoughts , speculations or lofty things that are being propagated against us. Articulating these poisonous arrows only helps assimilate them in our hearts which in turn causes us to live them out in our souls.

Solomon said life and death are in the power of the tongue (see Proverbs 18:21). Ezekiel epitomized this when he spoke life over a boneyard, and a mighty army emerged. Therefore, it’s also possible to reduce a mighty army into a mere pile of bones with words spoken from an untamed tongue! Look at the warning James gave us about shooting off our big mouths: “ Look at the ships also, though they are so great and are driven by strong winds, are still directed by a very small rudder wherever the inclination of the pilot desires. So also the tongue is a small part of the body, and yet it boasts of great things. See how great a forest is set aflame by such a small fire! ” (James 3:4–5). It is tough enough to be in such an intense battle that you cannot see the forest for the trees. But it is stupid to set the whole forest on fire with our tongues.

As James tells us, our tongue is like the rudder of a ship. It can steer us into a safe harbor until the winds of adversity pass by. But instead of navigating our ship into refuge from the storms of life, we often tend to let go of the wheel. This allows the waves of circumstance to drive the rudder instead of our faith, virtues, and values keeping us on course. 

THE PALACE OF OUR SOUL


Speaking words from a tongue gone rogue is like eating fruit from a poison tree. Destructive words are deadly. Speaking them out loud will rot the mind, weaken the heart, and immobilize our lives in every way. It is up to us not to consume and assimilate these words by allowing them to take root in our minds and hearts. Paul put it this way,

Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.. ” (Philippians 4:8–9)

As Believers, we must set up guards at the entrance of our hearts and minds to protect the Kingdom of God within ourselves. Meditating on negative words is like opening up our heart gate and allowing enemy armies to invade the peaceful palace of our souls. This is why it’s vital that we heed Paul’s insistence—to dwell on God’s goodness. Meditating and often recalling that WE ARE Kingdom people destined to live in righteousness, peace, and joy , invites the God of peace to reign over our spirit, soul, and body. 

GOD’S FORMULA FOR SUCCESS

I know, when you hear the word “meditate,” you probably picture some guy sitting on the floor with his legs crossed, humming to himself, trying to empty his brain of all thoughts. But this isn’t scriptural meditation. Meditation that focuses on emptying your brain isn’t going to lead anywhere. In fact, it’s no different than an ostrich burying its head in the sand when it feels threatened; it’s a futile attempt at securing safety and restoring peace. 

On the other hand, Biblical meditation is active and always leads to our triumph. In fact, after Moses died and Joshua was left to lead God’s people into the promised land, it was meditation that God said was the key to Joshua profoundly prospering: 


This book of the law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it; for then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have success. ” (See Joshua 1:1-8)

I’m not sure if you caught the, “YOU WILL,” part? God didn’t say, “I will make you prosperous and successful.” He said, “You will make your way prosperous and you will have success.” Seriously, meditation seems like an overly simplified formula for success, but it is actually proactively using God’s words, thoughts, and promises to uproot any lies of condemnation that may be sabotaging us from living an abundant life. 

Meditating on the truth that we are God’s beloved is God’s formula for a renewed mind! It enables us to walk in His gift of peace that surpasses all understanding. 

My prayer for you today, on Good Friday, is that you would meditate on the righteousness, peace, and joy that Jesus Christ paid for. Let’s triumphantly declare God’s truth over us and speak out the lovely thoughts that He graciously shares with us. 


THE BLOG

Discover more blog posts

By Kris Vallotton October 30, 2025
Redding Civic Auditorium Bethel Church has had a vision to help create one beautiful city for decades. Then, in late 2010, the Record Searchlight posted an article that the City of Redding was closing the Civic Auditorium due to the current economic crisis. The Civic cost the city 1.9 million dollars in 2010 to operate. Furthermore, the building seriously needed to be refurbished. The Bethel leadership team was deeply concerned about the economic effect the closing of the Civic would have on our already ailing city, not to mention the negative impact it would have on the social dynamic of our community. This ultimately led to a group of leaders forming a Non-religious, Public Benefit, Nonprofit Corporation called Advance Redding to operate the Civic Auditorium in October of 2011. Advance Redding entered into a contract that paid The City of Redding 360k annually in the form of a lease, for the privilege of operating the Civic Auditorium for the community. Advance Redding then entered into a contractual agreement with Bethel Church for $750K a year lease, to facilitate the Bethel School of Ministry, four days a week (Monday thru Thursday). Furthermore, Bethel Church donated nearly 2 million dollars to Advance Redding (AR) to help refurbish the Civic Auditorium. The Bethel Lease allowed AR to operate the Auditorium at break-even for 13 years. Advance Redding also was able to improve the business model, which dramatically increased the number of events facilitated by the Civic each year and greatly improved the entertainment experience. This resulted in millions more dollars of revenue flowing into our city every year! The Bethel School of Ministry no longer needed the Civic after the COVID-19 season, as the growth of the School is happening online. Therefore, BSSM moved out of the Civic in 2023, and didn’t renew its lease. This left Advance Redding with the challenge of operating the Civic without the monies that Bethel was paying in rent. The City graciously lowered the rent to 5k a month to help remedy the situation. But it hasn’t proved to be enough to solve the economic situation as the Civic is now operating at a significant loss. This inspired the Advance Redding board to request that the City release the funds set aside by the sale of land for the Sheraton and from our rents, for the maintenance of the Civic building but never utilized. This, we reasoned, would cover the losses for this year and part of the following year; which would keep the Civic open until a permanent solution could be implemented. The City Council agreed to this stop-gap solution, which we are grateful for. But moving forward, there needs to be a permanent, economic solution put in place to ensure that the Civic remains open and vibrant for the foreseeable future. The Advance Redding Board believes that the only viable option for the long-term solution for the Civic, (and for the economic health of our city), is the citizen-led Initiative for the Measure Adoption of a One Percent Sales Tax. Therefore, we have taken a leadership role in helping to pass the Initiative with our efforts. We also invested $49.5k of our Advance Redding budget to fund the effort to pass the tax, as without the Initiative, the Auditorium has no future! Closing the Civic Auditorium will have a massive negative impact on the economy of Shasta County as the events it facilitates bring millions of dollars into our community every year. It should also be noted that there are virtually no Civic Centers in the nation, that operate without government investment. The Redding Civic Auditorium has been the rare exception; and although the Civic opened 55 years ago, even it has only operated at no cost to the City for 14 years due to the generosity of Bethel Church. Sales Tax Solution The Sales Tax rate in Shasta County is 7.25% and yet the average sales tax in California is 8.85%. Nobody likes higher taxes, but we live in a state that has an extremely high cost of living. Much of this is because of the rising cost of insurance due to the increased amount of wild fires in our state, and the need to facilitate Fire Departments and fire mitigation to prevent another catastrophe in our communities. Furthermore, the rise of fentanyl in our county and increased drug addiction have also increased the need for police protection and crime prevention. This and many other factors have caused the cost of living in a beautiful city like Redding to drastically increase. Although the cost of operating a city has increased exponentially over the last three decades, Redding has not raised the sales tax since 1955. Yet over 61% of California Counties have already increased their sales tax to meet these rising costs. The other counties will likely follow as their communities face the challenge of trying to maintain the quality of life they’ve enjoyed, while having to meet the rising cost of the services that make this possible. The sales tax increase is the least intrusive way to continue to maintain and even improve the quality of life in our community. It raises millions of dollars to meet these costs. Here are some of the benefits Measure A would provide for the City of Redding to sustain the progress we have made over the last several years, specifically: Redding Police: Add 20 more officers (17% increase), which could result in a significant reduction in crime and in response time. Redding Fire: Add new fire station in the Enterprise area, reducing response time in that area from 8.5 minutes to 5 minutes and response times citywide by 1.5 minutes. Updated fire stations across the city. 9 new firefighters and a new battalion chief. Also, $750k more per year in wildfire prevention fuel thinning work. Redding Roads: The ability to take our roads from a quality score of 48 out of 100 to as high as 80. Redding Parks & Recreation: Make major upgrades to South City Park (near the library) and Caldwell Park and the new Panorama Park, which will include a gym and emergency evacuation shelter. Updated Big League Dreams and funding to update the California Soccer Park when fields need to be replaced in 6-7 years. This is a path to sustaining these iconic Redding youth development facilities so that our kids can enjoy healthy development activities rather than get in trouble. Upgraded Riverfront: Create sustainability of the Civic, a driver of $84M in economic impact for our city and upgrades to bring in more and better shows and create better experiences. Sustainability of this Hall of Fame Rodeo with increased events around the year and increased capacity during Rodeo Week. Let’s join hands to make Redding, California one of the most beautiful cities in America to visit, and the healthiest city in the nation to live in!
By Kris Vallotton October 22, 2025
When life hurts, God is closer than you think. Learn how suffering shapes your soul and reveals His presence in your pain.
By Kathy Vallotton May 10, 2025
As Mother’s Day approached, I knew there was no one better to speak into the heart of motherhood than my wife, Kathy. Her life has been a living picture of grace, sacrifice, and Spirit-led strength. I believe her words will bless you the way her life has blessed me. Kris - Today, I want to honor the incredible women who wear the title of “Mother” with grace, strength, and unwavering love. A mother is a guiding light. She illuminates our paths with wisdom and warmth. She is the gentle hand that nurtures us in our earliest days, the fierce protector who stands by us through life’s storms, and the unwavering supporter of our dreams. Many times, Mom, our sacrifices go unnoticed. We juggle countless responsibilities, often putting our own needs aside to ensure the happiness and well-being of our family. That’s just what Moms do! My joy has always come from serving others. What some people call exhausting, I call invigorating! Even when my kids were young, I can't tell you how many sleepless nights I've had, comforting one of my babies because, ‘only Mommy will do.’ Love wins every time! But love has stolen my heart over and over again. In the good times and in the bad, Jesus has always been by my side, my solid rock and my firm foundation. He has been there beside you too! That big “S” that you wear on your chest didn't happen by accident. The bible says that He will never leave me or forsake me. During all of my laughter and through my many tears, He has always guided me in every situation. So when you feel weak, remember He is right by your side. When you don't think that you can move another muscle, He is your biggest cheerleader. When you get into a spot where life feels like more than you can handle, take a look at what the Lord says about you! You are Tenacious. Your perseverance is remarkable. As a Mom, you consistently push through obstacles with unwavering commitment to your goals. You are Courageous. Mom’s often take bold steps, stand up to what they think is just, even when faced with opposition or adversity. You can do this! You are Radiant. The love of Jesus shines brightly to all those who you come in contact with, inspiring positivity and hope. You are Unstoppable. Mom, once you set your sights on a goal, you exhibit an unwavering drive to help your children pursue their dreams and desires. You are Fierce. With a spirit that is unyielding, as a Mom, you will protect your family at all costs. You are Inspiring. Moms believe in their kids. We believe that all things are possible with God and encourage our families to go where no child has ever gone before! Mom, you are the architects of our character, teaching us values of kindness, empathy, and resilience. With every hug, every word of encouragement, you instill in us the confidence to pursue our passions and overcome obstacles. Your laughter brings joy to our lives, while your tears remind us of the depth of your love. As a mom myself, I celebrate not just the role you play but the remarkable individuals you are. You are the heart of the family, the keeper of traditions, and the source of unconditional love. Each moment shared, each lesson taught, and every story told weaves an unbreakable bond that shapes who we are. To all mothers, whether near or far, biological or chosen, your impact is profound and everlasting. Today, we celebrate you, not just for the love you give, but for the incredible people you are. Happy Mother’s Day! Kathy Vallotton
Show More

NEWSLETTER

Get free digital content from Kris with his weekly newsletter